Father's dilemma

Look at the face of a father the moment he sees the face of his children just born. The jubilant face becomes the reflection of his intrinsic happiness he feels inside him. He starts looking for the avenues on how to bring comfort to his newly born child in whatever way he could. This is a feeling of the fact that now the child is his responsibility for proper upbringing and readying him to bring an additional asset to the evolution of mankind i.e. giving him philosophy of life, relevant education, responsibility towards society, towards family and going ahead with fulfilling further responsibilities to advance the cause of continual existence of mankind.  

In the process of the growth of the child, the child learns to walk, speak, talk, socialize and slowly enters into school, starts learning process and interacting with the outer world. This leads to the child's all round development under the shadow of parents, family and the society. In the whole developmental process, the life experiences of parents, which also controls their behaviour with the child within the given circumstances, the family members, the outer influences of the society and their interaction with the child, all mold the child's temperament. These influences on child's psychology during growth also govern their behaviour with / response to the family or external environment. In turn, a child's behaviour again determines how his/her environment (family and society) will respond to him/her. The family and the society within their limited knowledge and understanding of the psychological influences and responses thus further mold the child's behaviour. 

Having been influenced by such interactions throughout the childhood, children enter their teen age where they undergo a very different intrinsic changes that prepares them to become adult. In the teen age, a child has to behave as adult if he/she has to become a perfect adult and this entails decision making, differentiating right from wrong, financial understanding and decisions, psychological responses to the environment, decisions on possible career options for further livelihood, coping with physiological changes, so on and so forth. However, such a big responsibility on these children comes in absence of a large amount of statistical experiences and this make them fully confused and indecisive, which in turn make the life of a teenager much more difficult compared to their younger or adult counterparts. Such an age need to be mentored in a proper manner with love and care. 

Having understood a bit about the growth of a child and difficulty of being in teens, parents also face a relatively similar situation mostly governed by the thought of seeing their children better off compared to their present situation at home. This thought always remains in the parents' consciousness and much of their interactions with the growing child, particularly during their teenage, entails the responses from the perspectives of the fearfulness. This further aggravtes the issue and sometimes does not result in what the society or the family wants to happen.

Therefore, it is important to understand that the foundation we make for our children in their childhood should be governed not by the parents' thought process and their fear of the future of the child but just love and treating them as an individual with full emotion, as at this tender age they do not have the ability to develop an interrelationship among the social/practical aspects of life. THEY JUST UNDERSTAND EMOTION.